Friday, January 28, 2011

The Evolution of Pink



In our Daddy Issues series, a father of a young daughter seeks guidance, hoping to raise a strong woman. He looks to you, dear readers, for insight.

After last week's post about pretty pink princesses, I waged a minor war on the color pink.

And by war, I mean skirmish. OK, fine, maybe...tactical maneuver

So I was walking home from school with my 4-year-old daughter, and we were talking about an upcoming snow vacation and the need to find the proper clothes.

‘Pink,’ she told me, ‘I need a snowsuit that's pink.’

‘What if they only have blue?’ I asked, ‘Or yellow?’

She frowned.

‘We'll let's at least try for pink,’ she said.

Usually I buy whatever happens to be on sale…To be honest, I had wondered if this sort of frugality might rub off, if the idea might somehow break through that appearance wasn't as important as function or price…

…Hearing my daughter go on and on about pink mittens and pink snow boots, I decided to push back a tiny bit. Now, I know plenty of girls who went through a ‘pink phase’ and came out of it loving green. I wasn't concerned this was a life-altering issue (although I did read ‘Cinderella Ate My Daughter’ the day it came out this week and was appalled, aghast and mildly amused by the evolution of pink and what it might portend). I was curious how deep pink had gotten its hooks into her.

‘Suppose,’ I said, ‘There were only two choices of snow boots. Only two. And you only got to pick one.’

She nodded and waited for more, while I explained that while one pair was pink, the boots fit so poorly that it hurt her feet to the point she couldn't wear them for more than two seconds. The other pair, I told her, was blue — and they fit perfectly and made it feel like walking on clouds.

‘So which one do you want? The pink hurty one or the blue comfortable one?’

She didn't even think it over.

‘Pink,’ she said.

Those are some big, pink hooks.”

Wednesday, January 26, 2011

The Happiness Survey

Take the Happiness Survey, a project of the Seattle Area Happiness Initiative and Sustainable Seattle, with Take Back Your Time and the Compassionate Action Network.

Tuesday, January 25, 2011

Mother's Arms

"Australia, January 25: Baby Kipenzi, who was born on January 15, sits in her mother Kriba's arms at the Taronga Zoo in Sydney. Western Lowland Gorillas are on the critically endangered list. Image via Getty." -Jezebel.com

Friday, January 21, 2011

The Gas Station

"Mom took me to Boston when I was starting my residency. She was quite sick at that time, but she was bent on taking me to Boston to shepherd me through finding a place to live. It was our last trip together as mom and daughter, and we slept in the same room in this bed-and-breakfast. After we got in bed she said to me, 'I want you to know a few things.' And it was very clear that she wanted to give me advice before she died.

So when we were in bed, she said to me, 'When you have children, always remember that a parent should be like a gas station. The children can come to you and then go out into the world and do their things and then come back for more. But be careful that the gas station stays in one place. Don't run after your children. Just stay there in the gas station to give them support.' That's something that I've always governed myself by. Whenever I see myself running after one of the kids or trying to control what they're doing, I always try to stop myself and say, 'I'm just the gas station.'"

Leah Haseley, From "Mom: A Celebration of Mothers From StoryCorps" by Dave Isay

Truth Passes

All truth passes through three stages.
First, it is ridiculed.
Second, it is violently opposed.
Third, it is accepted as being self-evident.

German philosopher (1788-1860)

Thursday, January 20, 2011

The Love

"Mama, do you know what my favorite part of your whole body is?"
"What?"
"The love."
-Imogen, 4½

Friday, January 14, 2011

The New Face of 40

Gwen Stefani is the new face of L'Oreal Paris at 41. I love it!

Friday, January 7, 2011

Cymbeline

See "brave Princess Imogen" in action. The Seattle Shakespeare Company is staging a chamber production of Cymbeline through January.

"One of Shakespeare’s last plays, Cymbeline is a fairytale come to life. A banished princess, a wicked stepmother, a faithful servant, and long-lost brothers all dwell in this storybook adventure. After brave Princess Imogen is falsely accused of adultery and exiled from her father’s court, she sets forth on a treacherous and miraculous journey to reclaim her place in society and reunite with her true love." -Seattle Shakespeare Company
Photo: Erik Stuhaug | The Seattle Times

Thursday, January 6, 2011

These Dear Little People

Read David Horsey's excellent essay on parenting,
"Good families are what's right with the world."

Imaginative Play

"SARAH WILSON was speaking proudly the other day when she declared: 'My house is a little messy.'

Ms. Wilson lives in Stroudsburg, Pa., a small town in the Poconos. Many days, her home is strewn with dress-up clothes, art supplies and other artifacts from playtime with her two small children, Benjamin, 6, and Laura, 3. 'I let them get it messy because that’s what it’s here for,' she said.

Ms. Wilson has embraced a growing movement to restore the sometimes-untidy business of play to the lives of children." 

Hilary Stout, "Effort to Restore Children's Play Gains Momentum," The New York Times
MomsRising.org